Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Being Lonely

Being lonely isn't like being alone.

Loneliness is waiting for someone to come after you when you leave. Being alone is knowing that no one will come after you. I don't know if you've ever felt alone before, but trust me it sucks. It's a feeling that you never really get rid of even when you aren't alone. It's there in the back of your mind. Always reminding you that you've felt it before, and it can come back at any time.

Being alone is crushing. It plagues your thoughts and actions almost all the time.

I don't cry in front of people. I don't really share with others if I'm feeling anxious or sad or upset or anything like that. I push it back until I can deal with it by myself. I know this is bad, but I don't want to put those feelings onto someone else.

This makes me feel so completely alone at times that it becomes almost unbearable. To me that's what loneliness is. Feeling completely disconnected from the world and being afraid to tell others about it because you think they won't understand or care.

But trust me baby, they do. Because everyone has felt like that before. The sad thing is no one ever talks about it.

Being lonely is good sometimes. It makes you realize how important having people who care about you is.

And if you ever find yourself feeling completely alone, try becoming the person you would want to be with at that moment. Because life will be hard and there will be times where your only company is yourself. So start working on loving yourself a little bit more.

And baby, there will be times when being alone stays around for a while. During those times just remember that you will learn so much about yourself. Remember those lessons. They'll get you through so much.

This world is going to knock you down. There will be days full of rain and tears. And that person that you need in that moment might not be there. Maybe they're a thousand miles away in another city or you lost touch years ago, but there in that moment you will want them so much. If you're one of the lucky ones, then you'll still have that person. That person you can call at 2 in the morning and just cry. That person who will always be there to tell you they love you when you need it most.

That is when you'll realize that going through this life alone is never going to happen. Sure, maybe you don't have a 2 a.m. phone call, but you have a family. You have friends, coworkers, strangers on the internet, who care about you. Who love you and will be there to tell you at the end of that bad day. When the world pushes you past your breaking point. When you need someone to tell you that it will be okay eventually.

You may be lonely right now. You may feel like you have been pushed around and discarded. But please, if you don't remember anything else remember this, you will never be truly alone. Even if the only person you have rooting for you right now is a stranger on the internet. Know that that stranger believes in you so much.

So go out and let your light shine baby. This world needs it as much as you do.

Love,
Natalie

Sunday, March 16, 2014

Take a Breath

Honey, I hope you don't let anyone rain on your parade. Remember you are the only person in the world who can decide what's best for you. Take a deep breath and forget the crazy things going on in life. Even just for a minute. Remember that at the end of the day, you are the only person who you have to make happy. Because your happiness isn't second place.

Be in the moment. Take in every day, hour, second as much as you can. Try not to look ahead or back too much. Don't worry about the past or the future. You can't change the past and the future isn't here yet. Live for the now. So you can remember those lovely summer days, those nights you spent hanging out with friends not doing anything special, just being together. Those are the things that will matter.

Take another breath. It'll be hard. That's no secret. And when it comes, you won't be able to remember these things. The bad will overcome you. That's inevitable. But you have to hold on. To whatever you can. Whether it's a small smile from a stranger, or the little bit of hope that never really disappears from anyone.

One more day. That's how you have to look at the world when it's bad, Lovely. Just live day by day. Hour by hour. Take the time to notice the good even during the bad. And try to do good for others as well. It doesn't matter if they're your best friend or a stranger, everyone struggles. So be kind.

Live, take deep breathes, look around every once in a while. You'll start to notice the little details. The way the sky looks after a rain storm. The way people look at others they love. The niceness of the world. It deserves to be noticed, even if it's just by one person.

Be proud of yourself. Your accomplishments will be different than others. Someday's, getting out of bed will be an accomplishment. Someday's you won't get out of bed at all but you did wake up an that's something to celebrate.

Take the time to remind yourself of these things. Remind others too because we all forget at times. And if no one has told you today, let me be the first to say I love you and I hope you have a good life.

--Natalie